Discipline used to be something that was coveted. Emotional discipline, in contrast, may be the missing key that unlocks the outcomes we want to achieve in today's work environment. Great emotional leaders don’t always do what they want to do, or say what they want to say when they want to say it. They don’t always react in anger when they have full justification to do so. They don’t do tasks when they feel like it, but rather when they have them scheduled to happen. Does this sound like you?
Leaders that possess emotional discipline have an impulse, quite frequently, to run the other way when the super tough decisions need to be made, and yet they don’t. They stand up, when others sit down, and they speak their truth in the face of criticism and sometimes serious consequences.
She shares the following temptations for less-effective leadership based on the four DISC behavioral quadrants:
- Drivers- may have an impulse to over-confidently say exactly what’s on their mind, with little contemplation. They may speak from the “gut” and may not give consideration to how it lands on peers and team members.
- Influencers- may have an impulse to avoid needed conversations and situations if they feel like they could result in conflict, deterioration of a relationship or how much a person likes them.
- Supporters- may have an impulse to hold back on their opinion or believe that their opinion isn't as important. They may also have an impulse to take all of the work onto themselves instead of burdening someone else minimizing delegating.
- Compliance/Calculators- may have an impulse to not communicate. Calculators are more comfortable in their office with "time to think" than in seeking others' opinions.