Four combos are possible :
As shared earlier in our "Power Of You" workshop testimonials, "I learned I cannot change others, I can only change myself." The first step is to start building trust in Self. If you do not trust, the other person will know it even if you think you are amazing at faking it. In the March LearningFlash, I shared our High Performing Team pyramid. To build your trust in others requires:
- Alignment / Clarity of Roles (see next topic)
- Accountability: do what you said you would do and/or apologize when you make mistakes, and hold others accountable
- Leverage your team and personal strengths
- Have a clear sense of team and self purpose: Vision, Mission and Values
The other person can choose to do whatever they want, but when an authentic person taking the risk to connect reaches out, it is a lot more difficult to pull away.