"The unexamined life is surely worth living, but is the unlived life worth examining? It seems a strange question until one realizes how much of our so-called mental life is about the lives we are not living, the lives we are missing out on, the lives we could be leading but for some reason are not. What we fantasize about, what we long for, are the experiences, the things and the people that are absent. It is the absence of what we need that makes us think, that makes us cross and sad... we can survive only if our appetites more or less work for us... Because we are always shadowed by the possibility of not getting what we want, we learn, at best, to ironize our wishes — that is, to call our wants wishes: a wish is only a wish until, as we say, it comes true — and, at worst, to hate our needs. But we also learn to live somewhere between the lives we have and the lives we would like." Read in it's entirety
That's quite a challenge, right? To begin, I've created a quick assessment that contains common things my customers have said to me this year as we live between the lives we have and the lives we would like to have. See if you've said any of these things: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/JT9P2PW. This will provide the self-awareness needed to grow through the challenging thoughts below.