I am well versed in teaching Emotional Intelligence, and I was not well versed in applying it. Here’s an example: I have an internal belief of what Christmas is SUPPOSED to be like. On the other hand, I see that I am not meeting that reality. Most people do and many have a vision that is not attainable. The tension between what I think ISHOULD be doing and what I really CAN do creates conflict and tension inside me. It’s important to realize that I created and triggered this belief… I made the belief up. I am measuring against something that I created and can un-create.