Check out one of Brene Brown’s podcasts (https://brenebrown.com/). Here’s a small clip to check out:https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
Notice how she projects being real. You don’t admire her for being successful, you are attracted to her genuine self. She talks with humor about real things that happen to all of us. The combination of friendliness, shared experience and compelling messages creates a connection.
Very simple changes can improve the quality of your presentations and the connection to the people you are speaking to. Here are a few tips:
- Tailor your message to your audience. Do your homework, know who will be there, and what they’d like to know about. Use words that they would use, and stories that they would relate to.
- Keep your topics lean and clean. Our current anxiety does not generate an attention span large enough to tell long tale, even one with lots of drama.
- Make mistakes and own them. Laugh with your audience when you can’t remember a word or messed up a quote or just lost your place. Human-ness creates connection and retention.
- Make sustainable eye contact. If you are passionate about what you know, you will find yourself looking at people in the eye to make sure they are as passionate as you are.
- Find a comfortable way to move and stand. When you are nervous, you can move too much or too little, When you are passionate about sharing with others, your language will show that passion as well.
- Be enthusiastic no matter how long your day has been. Energy also comes from passion about a topic.
One of my favorite stories happened early in my speaking career at a large conference. I was in the zone, with people engaged and contributing. It was training Nirvana. I glanced down at the table I was closest to, and there on the floor was some woman’s underwear. Imagine how you would handle this mid-sentence in a room with engaged professionals. I kept my eyes on the audience and quickly soccer tapped the underwear under the table and just kept going. No one noticed except the room proctor, who graciously picked up the underwear after the session was done. We had lots of giggles about how that could possibly happen.
Ah, but the story doesn’t end here. At my daughter’s kindergarten graduation, each child had to tell a very tiny story about themselves and their family. My daughter announced that my mother lost her underwear. Sigh.The moral of this story is no matter what happens, you can make it work. All you need is confidence and a sense of humor.
I suppose everyone thinks they can teach. I do see people who think they are teaching, but in truth, they are talking to and impressing themselves. This person does not care about the learners. This YouTube video shows how bad it can be. I dare you to watch the whole thing (it’s short). I couldn’t do it – it hurts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3kgtpl4Q5OY