- If we bargain, rationalize or minimize fear, Seth says it just gets stronger. Instead, re-frame fear as a call to action.Emotional intelligence comes into play here. Notice your fear, then look for the trigger (self-awareness). Intentionally decide whether you will accept that fear or re-frame it (self-regulation). It is possible to make a different choice by seeing it a different way. Fear of failure can be re-framed as an opportunity to learn, for example. Try it out yourself: complete an Emotional Intelligence Assessment, on us.
- Our story that 'everything has to be okay all the time' is a lie. If you're going to move forward, you have to live with the tension of not knowing what to do and failing. As Seth says, 'the person who fails the most, wins.'
- In our personal lives, we often love to dance with fear. We like roller coasters because we might die and we might not. We go zip lining, parasailing and tempt fate... and it's fun. Why can't we do more of that by taking our turn? Just because you're not motivated, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do/not do it.
If I don't want to take my turn, I must avoid freedom. Why? Seth shares that exercising your freedom to go after your turn causes Change. Change requires learning new things which usually brings mistakes which can make you feel stupid. Most people have fear that others will discover how stupid they really are (at least, that's the story they tell themselves). How can we break this cycle?